I HATE this question...
It’s probably the worst question I've asked myself.
It led to self doubt, disbelief, hatred toward the guitar (and myself), among many other things.
What’s this question?
“How long until I get good at guitar?”
Okay, you might be thinking... “But Darryl, is this question that bad? You only wanted to know what to expect. What to prepare for...”
Look, I know this question seems harmless. Allow me to explain why it’s bad…
When you ask this question it signals to the brain “I should be able to do XXX by whatever date.”
This is NOT how progress works in my personal experience.
You can’t say for sure that you’ll reach the goal. Can you change the date if you miss it? Yes. But how good does it feel to know you’re constantly failing? For me, it wasn't great.
Over the last few years I’ve learned that you can’t plan what will happen in the future.
I’ve found it's better to ask this question...
“What are the daily action steps I can take?”
This is what you need to find out…
Imagine you want to climb Mount Everest. You’re never going to get there by looking at the peak the whole time. You have to look at what’s right in front of you. Overcome the literal danger right in front of you.
In this case the goal is to reach the peak. The daily action steps are what will keep you alive.
With guitar it’s the same thing…
Your goal might be to be in a band. Or it could be to play a song you like...
The moment you have the destination, shift gears and think about what daily action steps you need to take.
This is how you get good on the guitar. By letting go of the fact you have to be somewhere at a certain time.
When you do something funny happens… the goals reach themselves.