If you HATE getting compliments about your guitar playing…
… these two little words might be the reason why.
Compliments are funny things. Some people love them. Others HATE them. I don’t know how you feel about compliments… but if you want to enjoy getting compliments then continue reading.
Here’s why you might hate compliments about your guitar playing...
It all stems from two little words…
If you’ve ever doubted yourself or felt like a fraud… you’ve experienced imposter syndrome. It’s very common if you feel “stuck-in-a-rut” or a “complete beginner…”
... and it’s even more common if you have high standards for yourself.
It’s easy to feel like you’re not good enough yet when you have big ambitions. Or to feel like you haven’t achieved enough yet. Especially when the bar for success is set so high.
Then when someone compliments you on something… you can feel bad because you’re not happy with where you’re at right now.
I know I’ve felt this way before. I’ve had people compliment me on my guitar playing… business… my teaching… but it all feels fake.
Here’s the funny thing about compliments…
When someone gives you a compliment, they’re doing so based on their expectations. On their benchmark for what is “good” or not. And they probably have a lower benchmark for how good something is than you do.
The moment I thought about compliments on my guitar playing like this… everything began to change.
I realised that compliments aren’t about me… they’re normally about the other person. About what they’re experiencing. About what they’ve just seen or heard you do… and how that compares to their idea of someone who is good or successful.
When I started to think this way… I began to enjoy compliments more.
I hope this was helpful today (or at the least a little bit interesting).
Check out my video below about how to impress your friends and family with your guitar playing!